The Psychology of Right Response

iStock_000004520845XSmallSometimes, we find ourselves reacting rather than responding. If we do not know how to control our reactions then we are heading to act the way the stimulus of the situation wants us to behave. We find ourselves doing the perfect reaction to a certain action which maybe a positive or negative one. We often are not aware that our negative behavior is caused by a stimulus and we are conditioned to react to the very nature of the initial action. We react negatively when we feel that the situation imbibe negative feelings and likewise we react positively when we are conditioned by a positive stimulus. and during those times that our minds are clouded and confused it is always better to reflect what are those negativism that make us restless.

We are always conditioned by what conditions us. Looking around your surroundings will make you aware why you and other people behave and act that way. We are shaped by what surrounds us so we need to choose carefully what do we want to surround us. The power always lie on us once we recognize that our environment may contribute to the very behavior that we are possessing now. To change them is not that easy it entails consistency and endurance. Pushing yourself always to act towards what is essential.

When we are in stressful environment our body system reacts to its defensive mode. It is the very nature our miraculous body to protect its system from any harmful aliens that may try to invade our body. Unknowingly, when we are under the state of stressfulness our body system tends to be weak because we allow thoughts that give us stress to invade our minds. We need to guard our thoughts for it is the most accessible avenue to invade our system.

To be defensive is innate to any animals and it’s very natural. We humans being part and the highest one in the animal kingdom are also using this defensive system of our body. We sometimes aware of it and most of the time it is manifested on how we react to situations. We defend our idea. we defend our actions. we defend what favors us. and it is very natural. but the things is this defense system is automatic to animals but not to human. Controlling such system is always under the will of man. If we are aware enough, we may not use it for a better purpose.

We put people to defensive mode when we hurt them. and that’s the beginning of argument. but people wise enough to control their defense mechanism control also their actions and behavior as well as the situation that conditioned them to act such way. We humans are suppose to be the one controlling what conditions us not the other way around. It is the very nature of the animals in the lowest kingdom to act and behave to what conditions them. They react because they do not do how to respond. Unless training intervenes. Humans must always respond. we have our will which we can use to control our actions that can make noble and higher to any being. We control

The Beauty of Changing

Change-My-LifeThe only constant in this world is Change. Change happens in a blink of an eye. It happens in a second.¬† We are all subjected to change. Even the hardest rock is subjected to change by waves. It being formed every now and then. Changing its form is necessary for any reason that I don’t know. Change is inevitable to nature. It is its life itself. Nature must experience change, must undergo change because that’s the only way it may be able to present itself at its best.

The World, as science said, has been existing for 2 billion years already. Just Imagine what the world had experienced within that period. A lot of Changes happened. The world until now has never stopped from changing itself. The cycle of changing continues because that’s the only way to live and survive. Everything and everyone will and must experience change. The only constant that every created thing and being must experience. Nobody is spared. You can never be left and you should not.

To deal with change has never been easy. Dinosaurs had to die for any reasons that I don’t know and evolution takes place which again a complete manifestation of Change in nature. Maybe it’s for better that these giant reptiles were eliminated. Imagine if they were still alive today probably we, humans, could be their favorite stuff to eat. Change could demand something from us that we could never imagine. Things that are hard to do and it’s never easy to embrace something new if we are already accustomed to our old ways. And to embrace change could mean letting go and moving towards the path of new road. a path could be totally new to us.

In change, we experience fear. Fear of the unknown. Sometimes, we do not know what lies ahead of us, all we do know is that a change is taking place. A change that leads to somewhere. Fear is our systems’ defense mechanism when we do not know where heading and going to. Fear is the culprit that cripples us to see the beauty that lies ahead, the beauty of changing. If we let fear overtakes us, we may not be able to see what change can bring us. If fear interfere, we may not be able to see that we are being transformed and “metamorphosized” from being a caterpillar to a beautiful butterfly.. Fear will always be there but we shouldn’t let it block our minds from thinking and seeing the positive side of Changing. When change is happening, courage is a virtue. Despite fear, you face the reality.

Change is also accompanied by pain. Something new will take over and what is old must be left behind or sometimes, must be lost. Change may push us to leave our comfort zone and may challenge us to cross the borders of our limits. Leaving our borders may mean loosing our security and happiness but life such like that is stagnant. A life that is lifeless itself. In change, letting go may give us heartaches and pains but by deeper understanding its purpose, change is shaping us to be the best person who is fitting to take the goodness of the reality that the future may bring. Like a rock being sculpted in its finest shape waiting to be presented to a large crowd of people, a beauty that awaits its time to be revealed. Change itself is very rewarding.

To deal with change is to deal with the reality of life. Life changes every now and then. What you do changes every now and then. Your action changes from time to time so as your decisions in life. There are no fixed things in this world. Even the dead undergoes change. It goes back to the one believed it came from.It’s Creator. The one who is responsible of creating everything.. Failure to recognize and accept change could mean failure to cope with life’s situations. This is life is all about. We make difference through Chance. And that difference is within our power if we make that change worthwhile and meaningful. if we make every Change directed to what is beautiful.

God never intended his Creation to be a fixated  thing/being. God is the author of change. He allows it because he knows that there is a greater reward if change continues to happen. What ever that reward that we do not know we surely believe that it is great because God willed it to happen.

The Beauty about Changing is that when we replace fear with trust and love of God believing that in every Change that happens into our lives God is journeying with us. allow change to happen. Always remember that God is the author of Change. There must be a divine plan in the changes that you are experiencing. Trust him. It is for sure for better.