3 Reasons Why Letting Go and Moving On Matter

The first time I watched the trailer of  the movie  ‘Starting Over Again’ by Piolo Pascual and Toni Gonzaga, I was a little bit  of no reaction not because I can not connect with the story nor I don’t know what was happening nor what’s between the two rather my reaction was more of ‘I know the feeling.’

People separate ways for reasons that we don’t know and sometimes we even  don’t understand at all and most of them happened in the most unexpected time. And when it happened, you will be left of what you only have and that is yourself, wandering whether you can make it alone or questioning when will be time for you move on.

Letting go and Moving on are only possible when…

1. both of you completely decided to end the relationship.

No one should be left hanging nor hoping that your relationship can go back to its original state but please if there are still possible ways to save your relationship, do it. but when prudence tells you to let go, then it’s time. It’s no good when both of you are hurting and it’s better to let go and let each other be free and be happy.

Before parting ways, make sure closure has been done. It should be clear where you stand and where you put each other in each others life.

End a relationship well so that you may begin with someone better well.

2. You accept the reality and start to walk forward.

Love is always a decision as well as leaving is also a decision. When you decide to end and part ways it means you are also ready to take the challenge to move forward and let each other walk on its own way. You can not decide to leave when you know you can’t take it. You will only see yourself going back. Unless you really still love each other.

You will never forget the memories. They will always be there and never be erased. When you move on, it doesn’t mean you will leave them behind, it means carrying them yet not as a painful memories but memories that has been part of you and contributes to the person of who you are.

3. you decide to Open you heart again.

At the right time, love will present itself at the door of your heart. Give yourself a chance to love again and importantly be loved. People find it hard to love again because they are still hoping for the relationship they once have. Let others share the healing of your heart but do it when you know you are ready to love again not because you need someone who could replace the love you have lost.

Relationship requires a certain level of maturity. Love is always a decision not based on feelings and emotions but based on what is good and right. Love can never be wrong.

Reasons why we should not judge others

“External act doesn’t guarantee the disposition of the heart”

Actions, we may say, speak louder than words but the question is are these actions really the manifestations of what the heart really contain. Actions may convey a perfect message rather than words but can it also be an error if we let the perceiver of the actions interpret the actions on its own? Well, I think it’s possible for a single action may also contain a thousand words.

“The heart matters, it is what happens inside that is most important.”

Sometimes, actions are just shows.They don’t contain the spirit of the heart because they are dead. They are merely used for a selfish purposes. Actions are done not out of love but out of ego. If we look at deeper at our hearts, we see that most of the things we do are done basically because we want something. We want something in return. If we don’t guard our hearts we may be doing it for the rest of our lives. Or we may be doing doing it unconsciously.

“It is not about the action, even though we may see it, but also the intention, the reason of the heart why we do it.”

The reason of the heart is probably the most important part and basis of why we do such action. Action can be a human basis  for what is good because in the first place it is only the person who does the act  knows the real intention behind his\her action. But  that’s not all, what happens inside is what God sees. God sees the depths of the human heart.

“Actions can be faked but the heart knows you cannot lie.”

No matter what we do, we cannot lie and we cannot deny the intention of the heart. Even though we may fake our actions, God sees our intentions.

Philippines have the largest and biggest arena in the world

“Yes, that Arena on the making has 75,000 sitting capacity compare to the presently biggest arena that can contain 50,000 audiences inside.”

On our way to Lola Corazon, Candaba, Pampanga for our educational trip, the tourist talked about this biggest and largest Arena in the world to be  that will be sited here in the Philippines and be named “Phippine Arena.” I thought before It is owned by the Government because of the name but when she continued giving added information she finally revealed the owner, no other than one of the most popular sects in the Philippines, the  Iglesia Ni Cristo (INC).

I was amazed by the constructions because it was really large and huge in size. There were other buildings on the making on the sides of the Arena which I think were also big and huge because they occupy large portion of land. Maybe, this buildings will serve a great purpose when they are fully done.

No wonder why this sect has the gut to erect such building. That 10% tithing can be a lot of money when collected well. No question that it will be a big amount of money.

I can’t understand why INC members are willing to give such money to their leaders. Is it in exchange of their salvation? I don’t think serving their sect that way can save them but I respect their decision anyway but I also know that they were fooled and deceived by what ever that had been offered to them.

I hope less Catholics would be transferring to this sect. Why? because their way of teaching their doctrine is to attack the doctrine of others. They cannot explain their own doctrines because in the first place it has no root, it has no basis for explanation because their doctrines are just their won inventions, it has no trace of origin.  This sect is just a product of a mind. It was not founded by God but a man, a Filipino Man.

 

when goodbyes are Best

” Oh I could say that I”ll be all you need but that would be a lie.

I know I’d only hurt. I’d know only make you cry.

I am not the one you needed.”

I don’t know if it’s somewhat prudent to say that it is right to leave when you know it won’t be going to work and all that are in a relationships are pains and sufferings and the only solution are goodbyes. I believe that love is sacrifice and sacrifice demands to set and let each other free when time is needed for both to have freedom and experienced again the happiness and beauty of loving and being loved truly.

It aches a heart to leave the one you love when you know you have so much to offer and to give but why such circumstances where in you are in a point of your life that you really love a person so much yet you have and you need to leave because you know within yourself that you aren’t enough to be loved by her and you aren’t able enough to give the love she needs.

Perhaps goodbye would be the kindest thing to do. Even though it pierces the heart and brings lasting emotional pain you need to do it because that is what love is. Even though it pains you need to do it for the joys of the other.

“I hope someday you can, find some way to understand. I’m only doing this for you. I don’t really wanna go but deep inside my heart I know.

This is the kindest thing to do.”

Sometimes the kindest thing is the most painful experience to need to undergo. It is only then we are able to understand the purpose of love.

Goodbye ’till we meet again!

Why Teachers should be Respected

I am teacher and I know how it is to be one.

During my first year of teaching, one of the things that scares me is parent conference, where in I need to face the parents of my students for some clarification or some reminders or any thing that regards to their son/daughter. I hate it because I don’t have yet that confidence to talk with people who are older than me especially parents who I think are experienced than I.

I am in my fourth year of teaching already and at least I have survived many parent conferences in the past years of my teaching. And sometimes, if not most of the time, parent-conference is one of the sources of stress to teachers. It sapped all my energies and It left me drain and nothing remains.

I have experienced parents who were very rude whey they make judgment or when they talked to teachers. I hate parents like that as if they know everything about teaching. If only we could exchange shoes so that they may know what is it to be in a situation wherein you will handle and educate a more than 40 students with different personalities, family backgrounds and different training grounds.

I believe there are many reasons why teachers should be respected no matter what.

1. Even though you pay the tuition of your child and basically you know that it is the source of income for the company to be the salary of the teachers, as a parent/costumer you still don’t have the right to say rude things to teachers who I believe are doing their best to give what is Justice and right for your Child. Teachers are humans and still have rights, respect theirs as they respect yours.

2. Please, don’t go personal. Respect the personal and private life of a teacher. You don’t know what the teacher is having at the moment of his/her life. Who you then to insult the personality of a teacher. Your money is never enough to say whatever you want.

3. Don’t expect too much from teachers. I believe they are doing their best for the betterment of the students. Don’t expect that teachers are supposed to be in handle of everything. Teachers have lots of work to do. They can’t  be watching your child all the time. There are other students who need the attention of that teacher not only your child.

4. Teachers are not perfect. we have flaws, we commit mistakes and sometimes we do wrong decisions. Don’t expect us that whatever happens to your child is our responsibility, your child has also responsibility. He/she should follow school rules and regulations and even teachers rules, if he/she didn’t do his part, understand that it is not our fault in the first place. Unexpected things happen because your child did not follow the rule/s that is suppose to maintain peace and order.

5. Say your words nicely. Teachers deserve respect from any person. We are doing a favor to you. We are educating your Child to the maximum of our capability and ability which money cannot buy. Understand also that some of you parents are responsible for the education of your child. It’s not just you send them to school and then you expect them to go out transformed already. Their education mostly depends on you.

6. There are parents who are mean to teachers. And I just want to tell them that please know your Child well. When they are in school they change personalities. Today’s generation has multiple personality. Don’t claim that you know your child very well and tell us that teachers are not honest enough when we evaluate the performance of your child.

7. In school we can not guarantee that because it is a Catholic School or any School owned by religious sect all students that we admit are good. Don’t expect too much from the schools name and then later on you get disappointed. To tell you the truth, whatever happens to one school happens also to other. All school share same sentiment. If you think that moving out your child from the school and transferring him to other will be good for him then do it. That would be a good decision. Maybe the child realty needs it.

8. Parents I think should know their boundaries.

9. An educated person does diplomacy to conflict. We are in an educational institution and I think it is rightly to do things professionally. As teachers, I understand that there some parents who cannot do it and I understand and respect their situation.

10. Teachers are workers but Money can never supplement nor buy their effort and care they are giving to the young people. If  parents can not educate their own child how much more you expect to a teacher who educate  a more than 40 students in a room. It is really a hard work to do. It is never easy. The money you pay is never enough to pay all the heartaches we experience and we face whenever we are in school. 

Learnings today

Just a few learning of the day…

1. Never pretend you are o.k.

If everything is going wrong then you need to acknowledge it and make move on how to change it to make it better. Never pretend because it will never help the problem be solved. It will never blow the problems away. It will never go away though it seems its not there.

2. Say what you want.

To tell you the truth, nobody has the capacity to read minds that is why whatever you want to say to a person you need to say it nicely or end up in despair because you have that feeling that nobody cares. Don’t fall to self-pity it’s useless.

3. Express you emotions nicely.

Express everything in such a way that the person still has the opportunity to learn. Don’t express your emotions dangerously. Don’t be imprudent because you might brake someone’s else esteem.

4. Forgive yourself and accept your weaknesses and limitations.

To err is to human and to forgive is divine. You must know your own weaknesses and limitations, you must acknowledge them before you can improve them. Forgive everything including the situation, remember that it is beyond your control.

I REMEMBER the Girl but I DON’T remember the feeling anymore

“I remember the girl but I don’t remember the feeling anymore.”

This is a line from one of the revival songs of Christian Bautista that caught my attention while I am browsing the internet looking of a perfect song that would describe my  feeling for the present moment.

I can still remember whenever I entered the room I was nervous because she was there and I can’t deliver well my lessons for I was conscious of what I might look while I’m  in the class knowing that she knows I have something for her and only the both of us knew that secret. Well, there is another one but she belongs to the other room.

She knew long before because I let her through a letter. I can’t say it verbally and face to face so I just expressed it through a letter. Once or twice? I don’t how many times but usually my way is to give something, a food, a gift, or a token, anything that might express my feeling.

But for now, I know that I have left it all because it’s not the same anymore. I see her everyday and I talk with her giving her tasks which sometimes I withdraw to give thinking that it will be way of forgetting her. Without hesitation, I can now act naturally whenever she’s around.

I will be remembering her even if she’s gone and if she comes back I will still but the difference is the feeling won’t be there anymore. The feeling will be remembered no more.

Honestly, what sort of images God forbids us to have?

Winning the Battle Within