Sin of Omission: Why endings are more important than beginnings?

“It’s not the thing you do, dear. It is the thing you leave undone that gives a heartache at the setting of the sun.”

We know that every ending comes a new beginning but what if the end did not come, will you end it alone? What if the end did just disappear in front of you and you were left hanging with clouds of questions banging in your mind? Is it the end or just the beginning of the ending?

Leaving things undone is not the end of everything rather it is the chain of the past that will haunt you wherever you go. Once you are chained, there is no possibility of going somewhere but to stay and just go around the place within the boundaries of your chain. You will always find yourself going back. If you want a beginning, break the chain.

Every life on earth must go through the right process. A person who just broke up with his/her lover must go through the process of sadness and sorrow. We can’t be hiding pains inside us because the law of process demands that  we must face our heartaches and accept them. Crying is natural, it’s part of it. When we cry,we are following the process of the body. Crying is the body’s expression of great happiness and deep sorrow. Cry if you need so. There is no freedom from the past without breaking the chain and undergoing  through the process of life and of love.

Omissions are the things we should have done when we had the chance but we never did it.

In a relationship, closure is important. Closure is when both parties have really ended the relationship freely and consciously. What if it did not happen? And suddenly, in the middle of nowhere you’ll just waking up one day to find out that the relationship is gone. and worst you don’t know why and how? And you seek explanations.

I don’t want to be biased in my words, but I want to seek explanation to the question ‘Why people leave the one they loved without even saying goodbye?” by looking at the differences of men and women, on how they view relationship in their own perspective. Sometimes, we’re seeing the same thing but we’re looking at it differently. We have things in common but we have also differences.

Studying men and women’s view of relationships can make us understand the real standpoint of each party. On how they view the things that are happening to them.

Just like the two men imprisoned in the middle of the dessert. One sees the barren dessert full of catuses, dry and life less while the other one looks at the sky and gaze the magnificent beauty of the moon and the stars.

Men and Women’s perspectives on relationship will be discussed on the next issue.

“Why men are often the one leaving and never say goodbye?”

to be continued…