“Try to imagine how you would feel if you saw the world through her/his eyes.”
All of us are bound to understand the person we love or we the person we are in a relationship with. A man and a woman have both primary needs. They define love into twelve needs and they are called the primary because through them another need is being fulfilled. So these primary needs are to be met first.
1. Women need “caring” while men need “trust.”
A woman feels most loved when she feels that she is being cared of. A man needs to know the “how the way to care” a woman. For instance, when a woman tries to open up a problem, the most caring gesture a man can do is to listen well, without giving any advice trying to fix her problem, just listen because that’s how a woman feel that she is being cared. She just want to be listened. And when she is listened she feels she is cared. Comfort her though hugs or a confirmation that you will always be there for her.
If a woman’s primary need is caring, man is trusting. When a man has a problem, Trust is what he needs. Usually, a man never opens up a problem unless to some crucial ones. Don’t give unsolicited advice to a man unless ask. Man don’t need advice because they themselves know what to do. And never ever force a man to speak up about his problem because for him that is one way of not trusting him. Trust your man that he can solve his problem. To don’t worry about him is the best form of trust you can give to your man. To don’t try to improve him or the situation because that will certainly hurt his ego. Trust him and you will get the result you want.
to be continued…
dark nights of the soul 